It is heart breaking to come across these many cases of suicides in the recent past. And what is more painful is the fact that these are kids, merely in their teenage.
To analyse, let us all go back into our past when we were teens. I am sure we all had a difficult time, especially dealing with puberty.
Keeping pubertal issues aside, we all had a transition from school to high school to graduation. Never been out if the house, except for school, this change was overwhelming in itself. New people, new environment, new peers. All in all a new life.
Trying to cope with this, we all had ambitions and our parents had expectations. But back then, the competition was less, comparatively. You didn’t have to score more than 90% marks to get into a professional course. Things were simpler.
Imagine your kids going through the same issues but with denser competition and exorbitant expectations. It is difficult to cope. Try to put yourself in the present situation, you will realise that your kids are really trying.
Besides academics, love nowadays comes at an early age and so do the heart breaks. Children often find it difficult to talk to their parents regarding this. They are afraid that they will be judged, scolded and their freedom won’t last. And sometimes, this is true. So they usually turn to their friends, who are kids themselves which may lead to misdirection.
Your duty as a parent here is to be their friend. To understand them. To guide them. Help them out of their miseries. Be free. Be sharing.
Be the light in their darkness.
And always remember, listen to them, if you want them to listen to you. There is a story behind everything that a child says or does.
Your duty is to nurture thier innocence yet teach them wisdom. Be a portal to their growth and development, not a hindrance.
Lastly, give your kids the chance to take their own decisions, do not impose your decisions on them. After all, it is their life.
P.S. I am not a parent, but there are a lot of kids around me and I can sense the feeling of helplessness in them.
So dear parents and to be parents, be a friend first, because you child needs you.